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Four small steps today: a short check-in so we have a baseline — our own questionnaire, not a medical test — a few honest routing questions, your tripwire words armed, and your first look at the catch log. No reframing yet. Just the starting line, measured honestly.

What this program is

A quick pattern check first. A project hits one snag and is suddenly 'ruined'. A person you love makes one mistake and is suddenly the villain. The diet slips once, so it's over — forever. One word keeps showing up: always. Or its twin: never.

Under strong emotion, the mind snaps to poles. It offers you two options — and both are wrong, in opposite directions. This program trains the skill hiding between them: letting two things be true at once.

Let me be straight about that phrase. It sounds soft. It is not soft. It's the hardest precision work there is — because the world keeps refusing to be one thing, and under emotion, your mind keeps insisting that it must be.

How the six weeks work

• A fixed order: first you learn to hear the poles. Then the grammar of both-and. Then the behavior version — the pendulum. Then the four big dialectics, other people, and what stays standing.
• The engine is the catch log. One tap when you catch an extreme thought: which word tripped it, where it was aimed. Catches count up — catching yourself is scoring, not sinning.
• The taps draw a map. Four territories: yourself, other people, your plans, the world. Almost nobody thinks in extremes everywhere — the map shows where your poles actually live.
• Each week we read your numbers and aim the next week from them. A rising catch count early on is the skill forming, not the problem growing.

Two honest notes, said plainly

If your extremes are mostly about people — the same person swinging between wonderful and unforgivable, with a real fear of losing them — this program helps, and it isn't the whole answer. That pattern has deeper machinery: a dedicated program is coming, and at its most painful, it deserves a clinician trained in DBT.

And if your poles are mostly perfect-or-worthless — standards, not moods — the deeper tool is Good Enough, our CBT program for perfectionism. This one trains the thinking style; that one takes on the standards themselves.

A standing note besides: this is skills training, not therapy, and not a treatment for acute conditions on its own.

Right now: the baseline check-in, the routing questions, and your tripwires — armed.